A gentle letter to everyone who has lost someone they deeply love.

Grief is not a moment.
It is not something you "get over" or heal from on a schedule.
It is not a task, a weakness, or a failure.

Grief is a language your heart speaks when it loses something it cannot bear to live without.
It is the shadow that follows love, and a testimony to how deeply you have loved — and how deeply you still do.

Have you ever found yourself pulling away just as things start to feel close? Or, on the other hand, clinging a little too tightly for fear of being left behind? Maybe you’ve wondered why certain dynamics repeat across different relationships — why you keep choosing unavailable partners, or why intimacy sometimes feels suffocating.

The answer often lies in something quietly powerful: your attachment style.

Rooted in early life experiences, your attachment style is the lens through which you interpret closeness, vulnerability, and connection. It shapes how you relate to partners, friends, even yourself. And unless it’s brought into awareness, it can quietly script your relationship patterns on loop.

Let’s unpack what these styles are — and how they show up in adult relationships.