When You’re There for Everyone, and No One Shows Up for You

If you’ve been the one who’s always there - the listener, the helper, the steady one - know this: your care is your gift. But it’s not your debt.

You deserve relationships where you don’t have to earn your place through effort.
You deserve to rest without guilt.
You deserve to be held, too.

So maybe this week, when that old instinct rises to fix, to rescue, to hold it all together - pause.
Ask yourself: Who holds me?
And if the answer is “no one right now,” let it start with you.
Because when you finally learn to be there for yourself, you stop waiting for permission to be cared for - and that’s when you start to feel free.